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Self Obsession

‘You are not that important.’

‘Life is bigger than one life.’

‘Do not get lost in yourself, you are not that interesting.’

‘Your purpose should transcend service of self.’

All of those are mantras I live by and repeat to myself often. Why? Well I have observed a cultural phenomena that is rampant today, especially in the West, of complete unashamed social and self destructive SELF OBSESSION!

Just look what it led to in Disney’s Snow White. Had the magic mirror in Snow White had any sense the dialogue would have been as follows;

Snow White Disney Cartoon Witch Queen Self Obession

”Mirror Mirror on the Wall, Who’s the Fairest of them All?

Snow White Mirror Introspection

”Listen up Queen…Witch…Lady! This obsession you have with your beauty is extremely unattractive and unhealthy. You realise it is driving you to contemplating the murder of a little girl right? She’s like 12…and you want to rip out her heart, seriously, I think you should see a Therapist or something, I know someone who is really good…I say this out of friendly concern…why have you picked up a hammer?!”

Instead He/It tells her Snow White is prettier…and well you know the rest. Point is, he fed the fire of her self obsession.

Self Obsession is nourishment for the Ego. The Ego clouds judgement, dampens empathy, diminishes humanitarian concern and bolsters self righteousness. It hurts you without you realising it and is toxic for those around you. So you end up in the company of those who share your affliction, and they cannot help you, for they are as self absorbed as you are.

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Eventually you seek the company of those who are selfless and giving. You leech all their goodness and patience and love, to heal yourself of your self inflicted miseries. Taking and never giving back. Without a thought for how much you drain them. No thought of ever giving back. Seeking their company only when your Ego needs comfort. Leeching for long enough to feel good again, then slithering off into the dark you call life. A cruel circle, that you are unaware of, but the Self-Less suffer.

Feed the World selfless selflessness

Being someone who is the leeched and not the leech, I have found that I am thoroughly exhausted. There is only so much unreciprocated giving you can do before the ugly head of bitterness slinks into your heart. I don’t give to receive, but the etiquette of life mandates it. It’s called fairness.

SO I decided to reflect the behaviour of these types of folk back onto them and found it really hurts them terribly. Yet if you attempt to explain that you are mirroring their own behaviour, they look at you dumbfounded, and it became clear to me that their self obsession has left them so blinded, they don’t they see themselves in my behaviour mirror.

It was slightly alarming.

People are more self involved than ever before, yet not self aware.

Introspection and Self Awareness are the first steps for change that leads to the improvement of self.

Self Obsession is an indulgence which undoes your efforts towards growth.

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I do continue to be a player in the ‘Leech Game’, but to a lesser extent. I try to keep a limit on how much I give, when it detracts from the energy I use to improve myself, that is when I draw the line. Any good I do is to serve the Greater Judge, who I hope will see my intention as pure. Evaluate your place in ‘The Leech Game’ and decide if you are working towards Self Improvement or Self Destruction.

 

Your Thoughts?

Yours Truly,

Zishaan ‘ZuZu’ Shafi

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All The Money In The World Wont Cure Your Stupid. 

It is not a disorder which even 1.8 million pounds can treat, something which Roger Griffiths proved after winning the lottery on October 22nd 2005. He quit his job, reformed his old University band ‘FMB’, then once that fell apart started a another called ‘The French 75’s. He bought a health spa, went on holidays, bought extravagant cars and homes and generally enjoyed his millionaire lifestyle…until he found he had no money left. He has now split from his wife, moved in with his parents, is repaying debts and has gone back to work as a Recruitment Consultant.

roger griffiths lottery win millionaire

I have no personal problem with Roger Griffiths, nor is this blog post an attack upon him,  he is merely an example I am using to warn myself and the world of an epidemic which I am most concerned about. He is not alone, there are millions in the same stupid boat.

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See, rich or poor, whether you started at the top  or bottom, silver spoon or spoonless, give someone a pot of gold and the result will  reflect who you are as a person, (Social Injustice to a side, that is a huge topic which I wont delve into on this post). This story really emphasised the point that common sense has indeed become a super power. From Actors and Singers to Lottery Winners, stupidity has taken them from rags to riches…back to rags. Why?

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Well because Stupidity is on the rise! When will we have concerts to cure it? when will there be PSA’s on TV to warn about it? Where are the health campaigns?  The screening tests? Are we closer to a cure? Why is there no vaccine for it when it infection rates are soaring? How can we prevent the new generations from catching it? Why is no one panicking!? PANIC! PANIC! PANIC!

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‘Beauty Fades, Dumb Is Forever’  -Judge Judy

This is just a warning from me to me, me to you, you to all of yours. Money can’t cure stupid. Neither can a Private School. Nor can a Life Coach. A Religion can’t do it and neither can a Scientist.

Only you can.

albert Einstein stupid quotes

Open your eyes, close your mouth and use your brain. THINK about every single thing in your life. Then THINK some more. You don’t have to come up with answers initially, just start off by thinking. And once you have thunk extensively, start thunking for answers. They will come once you have come up with the right questions.

Everything you need to succeed is already within you, provided you have cured your Stupidity. Cure THAT and you can tackle the rest. If not you will suffer the same fate as poor Roger Griffiths.

Yours Truly

Zishaan ‘ZuZu’ Shafi


What Do You Think?

What do I think?

Truly?

You really want to know?

I think that life is crap, that people are crap.

I think that I wish I could run away from 95% of the people in my life. That family and friendship and all that is a joke.

I think that having people on your wavelength is rare and valuable.

I think that sometimes I get very tired of people and then tired of life.

I think that there is never any point to telling people what I think. Or how I feel because any time that I have, my thoughts and feelings have always been misunderstood, invalidated or ignored. They have been taken offense to, and used against me.

I think it sucks that I was open and honest, at your request, and you became angered by how I felt and chastised me for it.

I think that tomorrow will be the same as yesterday, because my faith has given me duties that tie me to the source of my problems.

I think that tomorrow I will have to sit and smile my way through a 12 hour shift when I’d rather be under the covers just lost in the dream world.

I think that thinking is pointless.

I think that nothing changes.

I think that this is my test and I think that Allah will reward me for it.

I think that. I don’t know that. Hence it’s all one big cycle.

I think that I have had enough of blogging for today.

That is what I think.

 

-Z